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7 tips for a healthy relationship

This blog post is all about healthy relationships. As a social worker, I've seen my fair share of both healthy and unhealthy relationships. 


From my experience, I've learned that communication is key to building a strong foundation for any relationship. Whether it's with your partner, family, or friends, working as a team and having open and honest communication is essential for a healthy relationship. In this blog post, I'll be sharing with you my top 7 tips on how to develop strong communication and work as a team in your relationships. So, grab a cup of tea and let's dive right in!






Why is communication important in healthy relationships 

You’ve probably heard the saying, ‘communication is the key’, well it certainly is when it comes to creating solid, happy and healthy relationships. Good communication is important in any relationship. Good communication enriches a relationship, builds a deeper connection and makes us happy. 

Communication (verbal, non verbal and written) is one of the most valuable skills we can learn. Communication helps us interact with others, convey what we think, want and need to others and find out the same from them. 






You can’t develop a strong relationship on surface conversations. For example, you come home and ask your partner how this day was but are also busy cleaning or completing another task, therefore not giving your full attention. You are not actively listening and engaging in that conversation. It’s important to set clears communication agreements with each other to understand what each person needs at the end of a long day. 

Good communication in a relationship isn’t being afraid to delve deeper into other topics like understanding their hopes and dreams.  







To strengthen your communication together, here are 7 tips:

1. Make time to talk (make it a priority)

As a social worker and a mum, I know how easy it can be to get caught up in the daily grind. By the time you finally get a moment to breathe, it can feel like there's no energy left to really connect with your partner. But I'm here to remind you that making time to talk is essential to maintaining a healthy relationship.

In the midst of our busy lives, it can be easy to overlook the importance of communication. However, consciously making time to talk with your partner about their goals, dreams, and feelings can only strengthen your relationship. Trust me, I know from experience!

So, my advice to you is to prioritise communication with your partner. Put it on the calendar if you have to, but make sure you're setting aside regular time to connect with each other. And don't be afraid to get creative with it! Maybe it's a weekly date night, or a morning walk together before the day gets too busy. Whatever it looks like for you, just make sure you're carving out that time to talk and connect. Your relationship will thank you for it.


2. Discover your communication styles and your partners needs 

I understand the importance of good communication in all aspects of life, especially in relationships. It’s crucial to discover your communication style and your partner's needs to ensure a healthy and happy relationship. Here are some examples of communication styles that can help you and your partner communicate better.

Firstly, there are those who prefer to think before answering a question. If this is you, it's important to let your partner know that you need some time to gather your thoughts before answering. Your partner should be patient and give you the space you need to process and respond thoughtfully.

On the other hand, some people tend to talk and not give space for an answer. If this is your style, it's important to be aware of this and make sure you give your partner the opportunity to contribute to the conversation. You can even have a sign or a signal that your partner can use to let you know when they want to join in.

Communication is a two-way street, so it’s important to listen to your partner's needs as well. If your partner has a different communication style, it’s important to understand and respect it. By understanding each other’s needs and styles, you can create a safe and open space to communicate effectively.

Remember, communication is the key to any healthy relationship. By discovering and understanding your communication styles and your partner's needs, you can build stronger and more meaningful connections.


3. Be honest and open 

A lack of honesty is a culprit for crushing relationships. Whether it’s with your partner, your friends, or your family, being honest and open can make or break a relationship.

When you’re not honest with someone, it can lead to a lack of trust. And without trust, communication can quickly fall apart. You might find yourself developing poor communication habits, like bottling up your feelings or avoiding difficult conversations. And before you know it, your relationship can feel like it’s hanging by a thread.

That’s why it’s so important to say what you mean and make your feelings and needs clear. It might be scary at first, but being honest about how you feel can help you build trust with the people in your life. And when you have trust, you can work through any problem that comes your way.


4. Ask open ended questions and watch for non verbal cues 

Communication really is the key in building healthy relationships. One way to improve communication is by asking open ended questions and watching for non verbal cues.

Closed questions can block conversations and leave little room for elaboration. For example, instead of asking your partner if they had a good day, try asking them how their day was. This simple change in language allows for a more detailed response and shows that you are invested in the conversation. You can even follow up with questions such as "In what way was it fine?" to encourage your partner to share more.

It's also important to watch for non verbal cues. Sometimes, what someone says may not match their body language. For instance, if your partner says their day was fine but their body language shows signs of sadness or stress, it's important to follow up and ask how they are really feeling. Paying attention to non verbal cues can help you better understand your partner's emotions and build deeper connections.

It's important to remember that everyone opens up at their own pace. Be patient and let your partner know that you are there for them whenever they are ready to talk. By asking open ended questions and watching for non verbal cues, you can improve communication and strengthen your relationships.








5. Don’t read their minds 

It might seem like a good idea at the time, but jumping in and finishing their sentences or assuming you know what they're going to say can actually be quite harmful to your relationship.

When you do this, your partner may feel like they're not being heard or that their thoughts and feelings are being dismissed. Even if you think you know what they're going to say, it's important to let them speak for themselves. Interrupting them or finishing their sentences can make them feel like they're not being taken seriously.

So, what can you do instead? Well, the simple answer is to just listen. Let your partner finish what they're saying before you respond. If you're not sure what they mean, ask for clarification. This shows that you're really listening and that you value what they have to say.


6. Remember communication is a two way street 

It's vital to understand your communication style and work together to create a plan to communicate effectively. It's not fair for one person to do all the talking for both parties involved! Each person should have their say and feel heard in the relationship.

To achieve this, it's important to actively listen to your partner. This means truly paying attention to what they're saying and trying to understand their perspective. It's also essential to express yourself clearly and respectfully, using "I" statements instead of "you" statements. For example, instead of saying "You never listen to me," try saying "I feel unheard when you don't take the time to listen to me."

Remember, communication is not just about talking. Nonverbal cues like body language and tone of voice can speak volumes. So be mindful of how you're coming across to your partner and encourage them to do the same.

A healthy relationship requires open and honest communication from both parties. By understanding your communication style and actively listening and expressing yourself respectfully, you can build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. 


7. Let things go 

It can be so tough to release that grudge you’ve been holding onto, but trust me when I say that it’s the only way to move forward.

When we hold onto grudges, we’re carrying around all that negative energy and it can be really draining. It’s like carrying a heavy backpack full of rocks everywhere you go. The longer you hold onto it, the heavier and more uncomfortable it becomes. So, what can we do instead?

It’s important to acknowledge that it’s okay to feel upset or angry about something that’s happened. It’s a natural human emotion and it’s completely valid. However, it’s important to not let that emotion consume us and dictate our actions.

The best way to move forward is to try and have an open discussion about the disagreement with the person involved. It can be scary, but it’s the only way to find a resolution and move on. Try to approach the conversation with an open mind and heart. Listen to the other person’s perspective and share your own. Work together to find a way forward that works for both of you.

Remember, letting go doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or pretending it didn’t hurt. It means acknowledging the situation, finding a way to move forward and not letting it consume us. So, take a deep breath, put down that heavy backpack and let it go. Your mind and heart will thank you for it.








So there you have it, 7 tips for a healthy relationship! Remember, communication is key. It's important to listen to your partner, express your feelings, and work together to solve problems. But also don't forget to have fun and enjoy each other's company. Relationships are hard work, but with the right mindset and strategies, they can be incredibly rewarding. And always remember, a healthy relationship starts with a healthy you. So take care of yourself, practice self-love, and you'll be well on your way to a happy and fulfilling relationship.



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